What Walter Makichen Taught Me About Spirit Babies, Fertility, and Trust

The Lasting Influence of Walter Makichen on My Work Today

Many people know Walter Makichen as the author of Spirit Babies. His book introduced countless people to the idea that Spirit Babies can begin connecting with their future parents long before conception, pregnancy, or birth.

I came to know Walter in a much more personal way.

Our relationship began because my former partner and I were navigating fertility challenges. Like many people searching for answers, I found my way to Walter hoping to better understand why I had miscarried and why I couldn’t for the life of me get pregnant again. I thought I had done something wrong. I was angry, sad, and at times hopeless when I first met Walter.

Over the years, our relationship expanded far beyond Spirit Babies.

Through many conversations and private sessions, we spoke about my kids, my relationship, my home life, my career, spiritual development, and the deeper questions that arise as we move through life. Walter became what felt very much like a mentor to me. He challenged me, encouraged me, and often invited me to look beyond what I could immediately see in his own non-invasive manner.

Although many years have passed, his influence continues to shape my work today. The wisdom he shared became a foundation for the work I do today.

This Is a Sacred Relationship Between Souls

One of the greatest insights I gleaned from Walter was that Spirit Baby connection is, first and foremost, a relationship.

In our conversations, he referred to Spirit Babies as "entities", intelligent beings with their own awareness, choices, timing, and purpose. That perspective changed everything for me.

Rather than seeing pregnancy as something to achieve, I began seeing family building as a relationship already unfolding between souls. The physical conception was only one chapter in a much larger story.

Spirit Babies Are Wise

One of the things that always stayed with me was Walter's deep respect for Spirit Babies.

He never spoke about them as passive souls simply waiting for parents to become pregnant. He spoke about them as wise, conscious beings participating in the process alongside us.

Over the years, I've found this to be true in my own Spirit Baby readings as well. Spirit Babies are often offering insight, encouragement, reassurance, humor, and perspectives that can surprise their future parents.

They are not simply waiting. They are participating.

Your Own Alignment Matters

Walter frequently reminded me that wanting a baby wasn't the only thing happening during the fertility experience.

There was something much bigger unfolding. Self-worth, self-love, healing, purpose, relationships, fear, trust, grounding, learning to be present.

He helped me understand that our desire to grow our family can become one of life's greatest invitations to know ourselves more deeply.

Sometimes the longing for a child opens doors we might never have walked through otherwise.

Looking back, I can see how profoundly this shaped both my personal life and my professional work.

Trying Harder Isn't Always the Answer

From our first conversation, Walter challenged my tendency to think my way through things.

As someone with advanced degrees in psychology and a naturally analytical mind, I wanted to understand the process. I wanted to solve it, figure it out, and control it.

Walter would remind me that the very act of trying to control the process could create more resistance than ease. In his own way, he encouraged me to slow down, to become present, to stop efforting, and to trust.

One phrase that has stayed with me all these years was essentially this: "Stop thinking yourself through this, and you might have a chance at getting pregnant."

At the time, those words were difficult to hear.

Today, I understand them much differently.

He wasn't asking me to stop using my mind. He was inviting me to reconnect with my heart, my body, and my intuition.

Fear Shapes More Than We Realize

Walter also taught me that fear shapes our lives in ways we often don't realize.

Fear can influence our thoughts, our decisions, our relationships, and even how we relate to our own bodies.

This doesn't mean fear causes fertility challenges or that we simply need to "think positively." Rather, it reminds us that creating a family involves our emotional, energetic, physical, relational, and spiritual lives.

When we begin bringing greater awareness to those areas, something often begins shifting, not because we're forcing change, but because we're becoming more fully ourselves.

Fertility Is About Much More Than Conception

Perhaps the biggest lesson Walter left with me was that fertility isn't simply about becoming pregnant.

It's an opportunity.

An invitation to learn more about ourselves: our bodies, relationships, souls, and even our purpose.

Even when the path unfolds differently than expected, the experience itself can become profoundly transformative if you allow it to.

This understanding has become one of the cornerstones of my own work.

How My Understanding Has Continued to Evolve

While Walter's teachings remain deeply meaningful to me, my work has naturally expanded over the years through personal experience, advanced training, and supporting countless individuals and families.

During the years Walter and I were talking, many of the ideas that would later become The Energetic Fertility Method™ were beginning to take shape. As I continued exploring how energy medicine, intuition, psychology, and conscious awareness could support people navigating fertility in practical, everyday ways, those ideas gradually evolved into what is now The Energetic Fertility Method™.

Those ideas became the foundation of The Energetic Fertility Method™ and, in 2016, formed the basis of my book, The Energetic Fertility Method™: Tools for a Healthy Conception and Beyond. The book introduced a practical framework for approaching fertility through the lens of energy medicine, the chakra system, intuition, psychology, and emotional well-being.

Since then, my understanding has continued to evolve.

Thousands of Spirit Baby readings, years of supporting individuals and families, additional training in nervous system regulation and embodiment, and my own lived experiences have expanded my perspective well beyond where it was when I wrote that first book.

Today, I see Spirit Baby connection as one part of a much larger picture. While practical energetic tools remain an important part of my work, I've come to appreciate even more deeply the relational nature of this experience, not only the relationship between parent and Spirit Baby, but also our relationship with ourselves, our bodies, our partners, and the larger journey of conscious family building.

I've also come to understand more fully that Spirit Baby connection isn't limited by biology. Whether a family comes together through natural conception, IVF, IUI, donor conception, embryo donation, surrogacy, adoption, pregnancy after loss, or another path entirely, the relationship between souls can continue to unfold in deeply meaningful ways.

Making the Work More Accessible

One place where my work naturally differs from Walter's is in how I teach these concepts.

Walter's meditations, chants, and practices were deeply meaningful to many people. Others found them difficult to follow or challenging to integrate into everyday life.

The researcher in me has always wanted to simplify complex ideas.

I’m passionate about creating practical tools that people can realistically use in daily life. Simple grounding practices, brief energy exercises, easy-to-follow guided meditations. 

Small shifts that build over time. Because I've found that meaningful transformation doesn't always require doing more. Often it comes from doing small things consistently.

Walter Is Still Part of My Life

One of the beautiful things about soul relationships is that they don't necessarily end when someone leaves this physical world.

Walter still surprises me from time to time. Sometimes he'll suddenly come to mind during a Spirit Baby reading. Sometimes I'll sense his presence while doing something completely ordinary, like washing the dishes.

Those moments remind me that genuine soul connections continue beyond physical life.

Just as our connection with loved ones can continue after they transition, I believe our relationships with everyone we've shared meaningful human connection with, including mentors and teachers, don't necessarily end when their physical life does. The relationship simply changes.

Final Thoughts

If I had to summarize what Walter Makichen ultimately taught me, it would be this:

Slow down. Trust yourself. Listen with your heart. Remember that there is often far more happening than we can see.

Those lessons continue to shape both my life and my work every day.

While my understanding has evolved in many ways over the years, the foundation remains the same.

Spirit Baby connection is, at its heart, a sacred relationship between souls. And when we approach that relationship with curiosity, presence, humility, and trust, we often discover that the experience changes us in ways far beyond simply becoming parents.

May you continue to slow down, trust yourself, and remain open to the wisdom that unfolds through your own experience. Your relationship with your Spirit Baby is uniquely yours, and perhaps that's one of its greatest gifts.

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